Episode 39: Becoming a Man Without a Father.

Dan discusses how he thinks not having a father affected him. Single-parent households are not unique or uncommon at all, especially in communities of color. Since Dan never had a father figure to use as a point of reference, he doesn't know how truly affected he is by not having one. He can only speculate and share some of his childhood memories. Dan shares how he sought approval and recognition from some of the older guys in his neighborhood, many of who were criminals and deadbeat fathers themselves. The irony!

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Welcome to A Few Screws Loose: The Podcast!

Dan and Paul are both men of color who suffer from, and openly talk about their mental illnesses. The goal of this podcast is to help further destigmatize mental illness in minority communities where we’re traditionally taught to suffer in silence. We have suffered in silence for far too long. It’s our hope that listeners walk away knowing that it is ok to talk about it, it’s ok to feel, it’s ok to seek help, and most importantly you’re not alone. Join us bi-weekly as we discuss our experiences, tips, and have conversations with occasional guests about all things mental health related.

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  • Episode 39: Becoming a Man Without a Father.

    Dan discusses how he thinks not having a father affected him. Single-parent households are not unique or uncommon at all, especially in communities of color. Since Dan never had a father figure to use as a point of reference, he doesn't know how truly affected he is by not having one. He can only speculate and share some of his childhood memories. Dan shares how he sought approval and recognition from some of the older guys in his neighborhood, many of who were criminals and deadbeat fathers themselves. The irony!

  • Episode 38: I Like What I Like.

    To tell someone that what they like is "stupid" is disrespectful and abusive. People like what they like, period. Dan talks about liking things that weren't necessarily popular or considered acceptable in his neighborhood growing up. Things like listening to Rock n Roll, playing Chess, and playing the violin and piano. He also knows what it's like for people he's close to not to be interested in things he likes and vice versa. It's ok. Everyone isn't going to like the exact same things as each other.

  • Episode 37: I Refuse to Compromise.

    With the holidays approaching Dan talks about why he will be spending Thanksgiving alone and gives some tips on dealing with people who don't want to attend functions during the holidays. He also talks about why he's specifically instructed Becky to not give him a funeral when he dies (or bury him). Dan also talks about how his refusal to compromise and how he's usually very clear about what he wants and attempts to leave no room for interpretation.

  • Episode 36: Facing Mortality.

    This week Dan and P talk about facing their mortality. We've lost count of the friends and family who have died over the last decade or so. Like most teenagers we felt almost invincible and didn't really start accepting our own mortality until our late 20s - early 30s.

  • Episode 35: Shower Thoughts.

    Dan shares some of his shower thoughts about dating with an anxiety disorder. The last "date" he can remember being on was in the early 2000s before social media played such a major role in our lives. Dan speculates that if he were dating in 2019 he'd probably not be able to keep a woman's interest because he's essentially a recluse who doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

  • Episode 34: Arrogant But Humble?

    Dan talks about how he doesn't accept unsolicited advice because in his experience, people who offer unsolicited advice aren't capable of executing the advice that they give. He also talks about how he's arrogant but humble and whether or not having control is an illusion.

  • Episode 33: Feeling Alone.

    In response to the question “do y’all have any friends?” Dan talks about how he keeps most of his small group of friends at a distance. He also discusses always feeling alone no matter where he is or who he’s with.

  • Episode 32: Just One Bad Day.

    Paul rejoins the show after a hiatus to discuss wearing "masks" and the movie "Joker" with Dan. We discuss having to wear masks in public to hide who we really are.

  • Episode 31: An Honest Liar.

    In response to his transparency, Dan recently said "I have to be honest with myself because if I'm not I can't trust myself." On a ride home from work he realized that he in fact is a liar. This episode Dan explains how he lies to people, as well as himself. This episode is Dan thinking out loud and hasn't fully been thought all the way through so he'd definitely like some input.

  • Episode 30: Fuck Your Feelings.

    This week Dan talks about how he doesn't currently have the capacity to consider or care about the mental health or feelings of the people in his life. This is mainly because he has a hard enough time dealing with his own deteriorating mental health. He explains how he masks much of his pain with humor, no matter how bad he's truly feeling.